Leading people in strictness and gentleness
Leading and managing people can be a difficult task for any aspiring leader. It doesn’t only involve techniques or systems, but importantly include a strict yet gentle human touch towards other people. It is also somehow intriguing to reckon the fact that most of the important and useful ingredients of effectively leading people are not learned in the post-graduate schools or in the seemingly thick management and leadership textbooks. They are even not often learned from listening to the so-called leadership gurus and management experts. Amazingly, they are learned from within our selves’ realization towards our personal (not really professional) dealing with our co-creatures – the humans.
If you are given a task to handle people to achieve a common goal, you may experience being in the midst between protecting your authority and power and taking care of your people’s emotions. Of course if you are the boss, you expect your power to work for you, taking in effect almost everything you have said and commanded. However, though it seems to be easy, it is in reality a difficult job to do. Power can be useful. However, it can also be painful to others, and in worst, can be destructive to any organization. That’s why, any power or authority must be blended with the right amount of care and gentleness. Furthermore, the right mix of power and gentleness must also be fine-tuned with the right type of people. This is because some persons may like to see more strength in a leader rather than to see more softness in him, and vice versa.
A great leader, as well as a great manager is not only a leader of power, but also a leader of gentleness. Moreover, he is not also just a combination of power and gentleness, but also a right combination of the two. Strictness is important in an organization because it preserves strength and consistency. Gentleness is also important since it protects the emotions and motivations of the people inside an organization. The two attributes may often become a conflict within a leader, but the truth is it should be the other way around – they should be harmonized rather than become a piece of chaos.
A manager cannot manage effectively his subordinates using only his authority and power. He should also use his reaching hands – hands that reach not only the minds of his people but also their hearts. The strength of strictness can move persons in an organization, but the power of gentleness can move the hearts of people inside that organization. If we are to achieve a common goal, we need to unify people and motivate each one of them to attain that goal. In this case, we need to determine each people who happen to be unique and distinct to each one and another. Always remember that strictness must come with justice and gentleness must come with righteousness.