Leading people in strictness and gentleness

May 27, 2010 by  
Filed under Leadership, Management

people to be ledLeading and managing people can be a difficult task for any aspiring leader. It doesn’t only involve techniques or systems, but importantly include a strict yet gentle human touch towards other people. It is also somehow intriguing to reckon the fact that most of the important and useful ingredients of effectively leading people are not learned in the post-graduate schools or in the seemingly thick management and leadership textbooks. They are even not often learned from listening to the so-called leadership gurus and management experts. Amazingly, they are learned from within our selves’ realization towards our personal (not really professional) dealing with our co-creatures – the humans.

If you are given a task to handle people to achieve a common goal, you may experience being in the midst between protecting your authority and power and taking care of your people’s emotions. Of course if you are the boss, you expect your power to work for you, taking in effect almost everything you have said and commanded. However, though it seems to be easy, it is in reality a difficult job to do. Power can be useful. However, it can also be painful to others, and in worst, can be destructive to any organization. That’s why, any power or authority must be blended with the right amount of care and gentleness.  Furthermore, the right mix of power and gentleness must also be fine-tuned with the right type of people.  This is because some persons may like to see more strength in a leader rather than to see more softness in him, and vice versa.

A great leader, as well as a great manager is not only a leader of power, but also a leader of gentleness. Moreover, he is not also just a combination of power and gentleness, but also a right combination of the two. Strictness is important in an organization because it preserves strength and consistency.  Gentleness is also important since it protects the emotions and motivations of the people inside an organization. The two attributes may often become a conflict within a leader, but the truth is it should be the other way around – they should be harmonized rather than become a piece of chaos.

A manager cannot manage effectively his subordinates using only his authority and power. He should also use his reaching hands – hands that reach not only the minds of his people but also their hearts. The strength of strictness can move persons in an organization, but the power of gentleness can move the hearts of people inside that organization. If we are to achieve a common goal, we need to unify people and motivate each one of them to attain that goal. In this case, we need to determine each people who happen to be unique and distinct to each one and another.  Always remember that strictness must come with justice and gentleness must come with righteousness.


24 Responses to “Leading people in strictness and gentleness”
  1. That being said, when will you stop using the term 'liberal' in an exclusively derogatory manner? In a very similar manner to what you have just described, being referred to as a liberal has been reduced to an insult, due to the concentrated efforts of individuals such as Bill O'Reilly and Ann Coulter.

  2. Not surprising, considering her age. But she also keeps on misplacing them. And she gets annoyed when she has to read something and cannot find it in a pinch.Now since I'm an ophthalmologist and I could supply her…

  3. I have read articles on other web sites that then offer a place for people to respond, I can read the article, read peoples comments make my own comment if I want to and move on. Its not an ongoing debate between author and respondents.

  4. Hi does not only read wise admonitions of the Prophet, he also tries to preserve them in his heart and to use them in practice.

  5. What can be better than faith complemented with knowledge? It is even better if knowledge is improved by good deeds.

  6. Most Taiwanese families are very rigid in their routines. They go to bed and rise at the same time each day, even on weekends, and eat at the same time each day. They will never eat dinner in front of the TV like some American families do. Everything is set in a highly structured routine. There is little or no variety in their lives. But they like it that way. They thrive on rigid routines, and are squarer than a table.

  7. Homes to buy says:

    Today goodness has been very watered down, with individuals forming their own definitions of what being good means. We should probably interchange goodness with godliness to gain a better picture of what this fruit of the Spirit is about.

  8. Through budo one also gains much more than just muscular strength by “growing strong.

  9. it will keep us from sinning under troubles, and from sinking under them; keep us calm and with inward satisfaction. Believers are to get and to keep a good name; a name for good things with God and good men. We should walk in all the ways of virtue, and abide therein; then, whether our praise is of men or not.

  10. The next time you decide write blogs or comments about things you don’t know. You should say to yourself, Am I helping the kingdom of God, or am I hurting it with my selfish opinions

  11. used tires says:

    There’s a great quote, ‘A friend in power is a friend lost’. It’s usually true and speaks volumes about the negative effects from improper usage of power. You raise valuable points about the same. It’s very important for a leader to play a good balancing act between power and kindness.

    Till then,


  12. Good point about how a leader needs both gentleness and strictness. I've come across bosses who have the wrong balance of one or the other. When not properly balanced, there can be problems.

  13. Tej Kohli says:

    yeah .. the Leader must have to strict for its duties and work also must be polite to our cliques , and coordinators

  14. cool site full of infos..thanks for the visit! i think all is very necessary and also very impressive thanks for great collection.

  15. If it does wouldn't miltary service advocate hate?

  16. You raise valuable points about the same. It’s very important for a leader to play a good balancing act between power and kindness.thanks..

  17. I don't think it was Sandra Bullock's dream. That was a pretty forced kiss that was just awkward, despite how hot both of these actresses are. If this was for a movie, the director would be asking for another take. Then again, he might ask for many more takes just to keep it ingrained in his memory.

  18. I have a product catalogue website fully functional & developed. How can I find and sell it to small businesses in mumbai and in what sectors. And also, can you please help me in writing a good sales letter.

  19. As I read this post I was wondering where you were going with it for a bit. And then boom, you delivered the money statement… “I’m craving that high that you can only get when you push yourself as hard as you can in the gym and on your run.

  20. Once the second pious caliph ‘Umar ibn al-Hattaba received a complaint against some of his subordinates, the heads of local regions and departments. He invited them to his palace.

  21. This is a very good topic. It's very important to utilize your resources judicially rather than all at once for instant benefits. It will wear out the staff and prove harmful to the company in the long run.

  22. Unfortunately, the essence of human vices is so that man notices other people’s mistakes and wrong views or deeds, but he appears to be unable to identify these demerits in himself. Whereas he himself refers only to those ayah and Hadith that deal with high morale and generosity. Moreover, he is convinced that people around should treat him proceeding only from these statements.

  23. Things are really very useful for me and i am very happy to see this information…

    jacob lee

  24. I agree that people should treat people like people but does anyone know of a business who still doesn’t treat employees like an expense. I mean do they really have a line item on thier financials in the asset area.